lawrencehelm: 2011

Saturday, October 1, 2011

right guy, wrong time.

don't remember what movie it was it (a few weeks ago), but a woman said something to a man that i have heard more time than i can count. "Why can't I ever meet a guy like you?" I think I first heard that back in high school, then again when I worked at Knotts Berry Farm, and several other times during different stages of my life. When I was married, my wife used to say how dependable and solid I was. All of her girl friends used to say, "why can't I meet a man like your husband?" Now this was a few years ago, but that phrase has always bothered me. The thought in my mind was (I'm right here, your looking at the wrong type of men). I never considered myself to be great looking, though I have been told otherwise by different women throughout my life(women not related to me). So, taking that into consideration, I was young, in great shape, good looking, was the guy you wanted to take home to meet your parents, the guy with a great sense of humor, the man women want to marry(minus the millions of dollars, I had a good paying job), and yet none of these women would even give me the time of day, because I was the good guy. meaning, no tatoos, scars, drinking, smoking, and no bad boy image. The few women I have been with all wanted to marry me. I married the third one. If not for my son, I might regret falling in love so hard. I often wonder if I made the right choices throughout my life. Looking back on things I might change, I may not have married the woman I did, just to not go through the heartache i've gone through. The problem with that is I wouldn't have my son. So, back to my thought, do women even comprehend what horrible thing that is to say to a man? She might as well just come out and start the conversation by putting him in the "friend zone". Oh well, it doesn't matter to much anymore, going through all that torment makes me wonder why there are not more hermits in the world like me. At the other end of that phrase "I wish I could meet a man like you" is a man saying i'm right here are you that blind?... No there not blind they just want your shoulder to cry on, and for you to say what they want to here, so they can move on to their next mistake.